"Sometimes goodbye is a second chance..."

We all make plenty of mistakes in our lives, and don't disagree with me, because you know we all do.

Some mistakes can be redone, but some, even after re-doing, can never put things back into places.

Hearts are broken, feelings are hurt, and you feel like it is the end of the world, or at least the end of the relationship with whoever or whatever that made you feel that way.

Do you believe in a Second Chance?


Life is full of opportunities that sometimes only present themselves once, and if we don't "catch" it the first time, we may never be able to afterwards.

Second Chance, in my opinion, works the same way.

I myself believe somewhat in the concept.

If the person or thing is still meaningful to me, I will offer a second chance to make everything up, my fault or not. I would not want to regret not taking chances, so I would definitely do that if I think things can be changed. If things worked out for the better, I'd be more than happy because I had done what I needed to. However, if through the course of trying, I realize that things cannot come back to where they were, I will stop... There is no need to waste time to try to figure something that was mean to be broken from the beginning, that's how I think. But at least I can say that I tried. It did not work out, I moved on and looked for other opportunities.

I'd say if I know things would not change from the very beginning without trying, I would not offer or ask for a second chance. I know that may not be the ideal solution to anything, but then again, nothing is perfect and neither am I. I have a heart that beats like everyone else, I have a trust that can be lost... So once both of those are broken, I would not want to give myself a chance to get hurt because of the same person or thing again.

Do you agree with me?

That's just the ideal theory. The truth is, it is much more complicated when we try to put those words into actions.

Sometimes we fall for or get attached to something or someone so much, that no matter how many times our hearts and trusts are broken, once an opportunity provide itself, we automatically take it... Things might work out for the better, but most of the time the same hurt feelings would be more likely to occur. We get hurt again and again. Are we that stupid?

It is not about stupidity. Some of us live by our hearts and some by our minds. The ones who are living by listening to their minds normally make better decisions regarding what they think they should do, but most of the time they fail to take the chances that are given to them. The chances that only their hearts, which they have put a blind on, can see.

The ones who listen to their heart, on the other hand, always fall for things they believe in. They tend to take as many chances as they could, because they would not want to lose anything or any moment. The bad thing is sometimes they are just too blind to see if what they believe in is even worth it. Their minds work, but they just ignore the possibilities. Then they get hurt. But they keep telling themselves at least they tried, that it was not meant to be, it did not work out.

And there are the people with the "perfect" balance between the two... Have you seen one of them? Because I am pretty sure I have not had the privilege to meet one.

Then the question is why we can't find the balance we need to listen to both our heart and mind equally at the same time? Wouldn't that be the best way we can find happiness?

Wrong.

Happiness is the feeling everyone wants to have, but little do people realize that every time they fall, they grow stronger. "No hurt was created to be more than what we can handle." We all have the ability to overcome everything that comes our ways, the ability to have feelings, the ability to make our own decisions, the ability to wake up every morning, the ability to live for others, the ability to love, to get hurt, to fall, to stand up, just so that we can fall again... All those abilities are what should bring us true happiness. Imagine if all our feelings are gone, how terrible life would become?

Some people are just luckier than others in finding their true happiness, and some things work out and some things don't, no one knows why. The only thing I know is that "sometimes life offers you the options you don't want to choose, but you must pick one or you'll lose all..." Take chances, if not everything, at least take a chance with your heart, even if the chance means putting an end to something you have loved so dearly. You do that not for others, but for yourself. It might be something you don't want to face or do, but without it, you cannot grow out of the mistake being a better and bigger person.

"Sometimes goodbye is a second chance..."