Forgetting and Forgiving

Hmm... For some strange reason I do like to write about getting hurt. Probably because I have been through some, and have seen people hurting some. Okay, not some, but a lot of times.

I do not know how long people stay in my life, but one thing I know is that they never leave without memories. I usually do not hold grudges, in fact I can't stay mad at people for long. Therefore, my memories about people are usually the best ones I can have because that makes life just that much more meaningful.

It usually is easier said than done; however.


When we get hurt, everyone tells us "time will heal everything," but little do they know that not all the pains are visible, and not all the wounds can heal. Scars are left to remind us of our bad decisions and to teach us life lessons.

It is usually said that the luckiest people are the ones who have the ability to let go at the right time. Well, in that case, I am not that lucky. I don't hold grudges but I do sometimes hold on to things that I know I need to forget, simply because I need the memories all for myself. In my own opinion, there's nothing wrong with that, because letting go doesn't mean forgetting...

One of my favorite quotes is "Never try to forget something, no matter how much you want to. There's a reason why your mind won't let it go, even if your heart has. Your memories always serve a purpose, whether you know it or not, and you can't fight that..." I truly believe that is, in fact, the case. Trying to forget something will just make us think about it more, I personally have done that, then what is the point? Why not enjoy life, don't try to forget, and maybe one morning you will wake up feeling as free as you had never been.

Not trying to forget; however, is completely different than not forgiving. Letting go means forgive... Forgive but not forget...

Forgive should be the first thing that needs to be done after the hurt. Why holding on to something that can tear you apart? Memories can stay for the better, but anger will not, so let it go, get rid of it as soon as you can. Hatred and envy will not help us move on, they will only hold us back. Forgiving will also give you the ease of mind. The more you let go, the lighter your heart will feel, and what's left will be the beautiful memories you should keep.

When we were born, there was not a place on our birth certificates that stated life would be fair, so expecting it to be is not a smart move. All we can do is to take things as they come, expect the unexpected, and be prepared. Good things can happen when we least expected, and so can bad things. How we deal with them is what's important, so keep an eye on everything, who knows what will happen right the next moment?

Just know that if something good happens, it was meant to be, and not to open yourself to it would be a big waste. Chances may only come once.
Bad things, on the other hand, doesn't mean it is the end of the world. Always know that no matter how bad the situation may seem, the decision on how to perceive it is yours to make. If you feel like life has nothing to offer anymore, think about how many people would die to be where you are.

Your life is wonderful, so SMILE, make it a little better in your own special kind of way, just like you are!