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In relationships with your love ones, family, friends, significant other...

Do distance make feelings grow stronger?

Or does it make the emotional string become thinner and thinner until it breaks?

We face many challenges in our lives, and distance is one of the most significant things... I may not know who you are or what you do, but I can be almost certain that at one point in time, you have to say goodbye to a person you love. Maybe because one of you is leaving to a different city, a different country, or even a different world...

So what happens to our feelings?


My own answer would be "It depends on if the person is replaceable or not." Call me cold and harsh, but let me tell you why.

Family is irreplaceable... They were, are, and always will be our biggest emotional supports no matter what. Even if life requires us to be apart from our families, they would still be there every time we look back. One day, you will meet and marry someone to become a part of a new family, but there is nothing like where you were born and raised, nothing like your first true "home." So yes, being far away will not hurt your relationship, it may even make it stronger. There maybe things you did not treasure when you were around, but you come to realize and start valuing what you have.

Friends are a little bit trickier... Some of them are just "casual friends," some of them are "closed friends," and some of them are the "true friends." "Casual friends" you can meet today, hangout for a while, and remember them for a little bit before you find someone else who you think can replace them. "Closed friends" stay with you longer, even for the rest of your life, but they do not have a significant place in it. They just exist, as I would like to put it. You see and talk to them once in a while, but it really doesn't hurt you being away from them. Eventually you can make more friends wherever you go. "True friends," on the other hand, are like family. In fact you wish they were your brother or sister, so that you can get to talk to or see them more often. They are the ones who know you so well that even if you guys don't speak for a while, it still feels like you have never been apart when you see each other again. I am fortunate enough to have a friend like that. We have known each other for 12 years, and have been best friends ever since then. I don't get to see her often anymore but a few times every summer, but every time we see each other, we still feel like 2 sixth-graders who just met and became friends... I love it!

Then comes our significant others... It is much more complicated to talk about this matter because everyone has a different point of view, so do I.
I personally think that what is meant to be will be. Distance can make things stronger but at the same time can make two people grow further away from each other. Relationships in my opinion need a stable environment to grow. Changes are good, but only to some extend. It is good when you want to "spice" things up once in a while, but if there are changes occur everyday, who can catch up? Distance also limits the ability to share. Technology has become much more useful in today's life, but can anything replace face-to-face communication? I do not think so. People need to see each other in person to actually feel the "love," or that is at least what I think.
I agree that distance can make two people miss each other more and treasure the moments they can spend together just like my case with my family, but sometimes in order to carry on, one of the two needs to put his/her interest in other things and try to stay busy... too busy that he/she feels like it might be ok after all being away from each other... And so it goes... time to move on.

After all, I still want to confirm that I believe in fate. Whatever is meant to be will happen at the right time in the right place. I also agree with whoever said that "If you love someone let it go. If it comes back to you it was and will be yours, but if it doesn't, it wasn't meant to be yours in the first place..."

However, if you two are doing great and believe in a wonderful future, don't listen to me, try to work things out the way you have always wanted them to and you will find true happiness. :)